Still Dating My Spouse

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Comment by RuNett Nia Ebo on September 24, 2009 at 3:39pm

I Am Engaged!
I can remember when I said those words and all of the excitement that followed. There was much planning and anticipating and I remember how intense I got sometimes. It's a wonder he didn't turn and walk away! If you read my story, you know that this is the second time for us. We had divorced. We grew up and now, we are back together. A few days ago, I took off my engagement ring and was just wearing my wedding band by itself. My engagement ring kept getting tangled in a craft I was doing. Yesterday, something happened as I was putting it back on. I found myself saying:
I am engaged engaged in doing everything I can to make this relationship work this time; engaged in keeping the lines of communication open so that the riffs and tears will be few in number; engaged in letting my husband know how much I love him and praying for him when my words aren't enough; engaged in making sure that Jesus is the center of our joy and at the core of our marriage. I am also engaged in finding "US time" because it is important that he knows that our time together means a lot to me. I am engaged because the only one who loves him better than me, is God! (I probably should have said "better than I" but everybody knows that ebonics is more emphatic!)

Comment by RuNett Nia Ebo on August 6, 2009 at 12:14am

I know no one asked me, but I gave a suggestion to a friend recently when she complained that she and her husband don't get to spend much time together. She thought I was joking when I said "make an appointment!"
While we have only been married 5 years this time, my husband and I have a thirty-five year history in each other's lives. We promised that this time around, we'd do whatever we had to do to make this relationship work. So, this time around, when things seemed to be falling into an old pattern that we did not want, we decided to pick a day during the week and make it our day. Our day is Wednesday. Yeah, I know, they call it "hump day." It's that middle of the week day when things seem to drag and take too long. Our day is reserved by mutual agreement. We don't take heavy duty phone calls and we don't take on all-day tasks. We might go to the movies or watch one at home. If something is really pressing, we might not be able to steal the whole day so we reserve an hour or two. Maybe, all we do is take a walk-and-talk but it's OUR day. Trust me, this works. You'd be amazed what can happen when you make an appointment! TTFN

Comment by RuNett Nia Ebo on January 25, 2009 at 7:32pm

Wow! Still dating my spouse. I guess you could call it that since we re-married after a 15 year separation. Reunited in 2004 after God changed our lives and has shown us how to truly love each other. Love is the action word in our relationship and it is a constant while being in love is something we "fall into" once a year to keep the spark alive. "Love, honor and obey," I don't have a problem with it because he obeys God who is the center of our relationship.